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Three Spiritual Exercises for your intellect, most useful in our times and those to come
1. Why do I have no friends?
2. Why do I feel no one understands me?
3. Why does God remove someone from my life?
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1. Why do I have no friends?
“You are not lonely; you are being positioned. Sometimes the silence in your life is not a punishment it is preparation.
If you have ever looked around and realize that people you used to call friends have disappeared, do not panic, do not question your worth, do not think something is wrong with you, because here is the truth: no friends it is a sign that God is doing something deeper within you.
God will often isolate you before He elevates you.
In the Bible every person God used mightily, went through a season of separation:
- Joseph (of Egypt) was thrown into a pit and then sold away from his family;
- David was anointed king, but then spent years alone in the wilderness;
- Jesus himself often withdrew to lonely places to pray.
Why?
Because before God uses you, He must prepare you, and before He prepares you, He has to separate you, not to hurt you, but to heal and sharpen you.
When no one calls you, when the invitations stop coming, when you start feeling like no one understands you, God might just be removing the noise so you can hear His voice clearly. You see, not everyone can go where God is taking you.
Some friendships are seasonal. Some people were only assigned to the old version of you, and when God starts shifting your identity, He will start shifting your circle. It might feel painful but it is
actually protection.
Loneliness can be the sacred space where destiny is born.
In solitude God reveals your purpose. In silence He deals with your heart, and in isolation, He increases your discernment.
You start seeing people for who they are. You start craving deeper conversations. You start praying more, you start dreaming again. That is not depression, that is Divine separation.
So, the next time you feel alone ask yourself:
“Is God cutting people off or is He cutting me free?”
You were not meant to fit into everyone’s circle.
You were never designed to blend in.
You were created to stand apart, to rise above, to shine brighter and to walk boldly into your calling.
This season of no friends is not the end of your story. it is the beginning of your transformation.
God is pruning you. He is protecting your heart. He is setting you apart. So that when He does open the next door you will be ready mature, focused and surrounded by the right people.
So, lift your head. The silence will not last forever but what God is building in you will.”
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2. Why do I feel no one understands me?
“Ever felt like no one understands you. Like the room is full, but your heart feels empty. You look around and realize: you do not really have any close friends.
But what if I told you that your loneliness is not a curse, it is a sign, a Divine signal that God has already given you more than you asked for.
Listen closely: there is a powerful truth hiding in plain sight.
Sometimes having no friends means God has surrounded you with Himself. You are not abandoned; you are hiding in plain sight; you are reserved. God did not isolate you to hurt you, He separated you to prepare you.
When people walk out; when conversations dry up, and when invitations stop coming, it is because you have been chosen for a higher path, a quieter one; and that quiet is where Heaven speaks loudest.
Think about this:
- Moses was alone on the mountain when God gave him the law;
- David was alone in the fields when he was anointed;
- Jesus was alone in the wilderness before he stepped into his purpose.
Aloneness is not punishment, it is preparation; it is Heaven’s strategy.
When you feel like no one gets you, it is because you are not ordinary; you are not called to fit in; you are called to stand out.
Some friendships would have distracted you; some company would have polluted your spirit. God, in His Mercy, removed what you thought you needed to give you what your soul actually longed for.
You were not born to be popular; you were born to be powerful.
The truth is: when God becomes your closest companion, you will never walk
alone again.
- He gives you the peace that no conversation can match.
- He gives you clarity no crowd could offer.
- He gives you access to wisdom, guidance and protection far greater than any earthly connection.
Sometimes, having no friends means you are already surrounded by Angels.
So instead of asking:
“Why does no one call me?”
Start declaring:
“God thank you for drawing me closer to You.”
Instead of feeling forgotten, recognize that you are being refined. This is not rejection, it is redirection.
Say it out loud:
“I am not alone; God is with me; I walk with Heaven’s company and I lack nothing.”
God knows your heart; He sees your tears, but He also sees your purpose and He is building strength in your
silence.
And here is the beautiful twist: once He’s finished shaping you in the secret place, He will surround you with the right people, not many, but true; kingdom Connections, not crowds, but companions with purpose.
So do not despise this season of solitude; it is sacred; it is necessary; it is Divine.
God has not left you friendless, He has simply become your closest friend and that changes everything.”
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3. Why does God remove someone from my life?
When God removes someone from your life, it is never without meaning. It is never without mercy.
Many of us have felt the pain of someone walking away. A friend you trusted, a love you held close, even family that once felt like home. One day they were there, the next they were gone.
And you cried, didn’t you?
You asked yourself:
“Why would God allow this? What did I do wrong? Why this heartbreak, this silence, this emptiness?
But hear this now, not with your ears, but with your soul:
When God removes someone from your life, it often means He heard the conversations you did not. He saw what you could not. He protected you from what you could never understand.
Padre Pio, a humble servant of Christ, used to say:
“Pray, hope, and don’t worry”
Because worrying is useless and God is merciful.”
Child, God does not take to punish, He takes to protect.
There are some people whose season in your life has ended. Like leaves in the fall, they serve their purpose and now they must fall away.
The enemy often sends distraction to rest as desire, but the Lord removes it before it becomes destruction.
You may feel abandoned, but you are not alone. God is pruning your soul, shaping your path, molding your heart for what is coming.
Maybe that person was not meant to walk where God is taking you.
Maybe they were not ready for the weight of your calling. Or maybe, just maybe, God is freeing space for someone who will reflect His love more clearly.
You see, beloved, there is pain in pruning but, oh, the fruit it will bear. Just like Jesus in Gethsemane, sweating blood and agony before the Cross.
We too must walk through sorrow to find our resurrection.
And even if tears fall tonight, joy comes in the morning. So, trust [God’s] timing. Even in silence, He speaks. Even in the absence of others, His Presence fills the room.
And remember, when God removes, He always replaces; not always with what you want, but always with what you need.
So instead of asking:
“Why did they leave?”
Ask this:
“Lord, what are you making room for?”
- Do not chase what God has removed.
- Do not mourn what he has released.
Instead, thank Him, praise Him, and walk on.
- Because if he took it away, it was never meant to stay.
Let this message rest on your spirit. Let it bring healing to your wounds and hope to your waiting.
God is not punishing you. He is preparing you.
As Padre Pio said:
“The more you are afflicted, the more you ought to rejoice. Because in the fire of tribulation, the soul will become pure gold.”
If this message spoke to your heart, I ask you to share it with someone who feels lost, who needs to know God has a plan.
“Jesus, I trust your plan. Jesus, I trust in You”.
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